Blind and Deaf Swinging a Cain
What your ears can’t hear, eyes can’t see, heart can’t feel.
The old saying, “Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words can never hurt me’, isn’t the truth. The truth is people get hurt by words every day, this is especially true for the LGBT (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender) community. The trick of the old saying is that it encourages people on both sides of the attack to fall into a dissociative state of mind. One where the LGBT person becomes numb to those that attack with words and their attackers disassociate their words and positions from being harmful.
So, what is the harm being done?
By no means is this a comprehensive list, but lets begin talking about the harm to the LGBT community. Words are used to he humanize. I can think of no greater issue of harm than those that harm and cause people to be dehumanized and for the attackers to feel justified in themselves. In the blindness, inflicting various forms of abuse and the blind seeing themselves as acting in love. The kind of abuse that lowers a person’s self-esteem, demoralizes, oppresses and leads the suicides and deaths of more LGBT people than any other demographic. Was it Jesus that said that we keep the doctrines that bear good fruit and not bad? Still as spiritual communities we continue to do harm and attach the name of God to it: a tree we should not eat from any longer.
Take your beatings like a man/woman?
The blind and deaf person with white cain in hand (with the red strip at the end) walks down his usual road. He knows this is his path and he walks it everyday. Tossing his cain as he is able to and fro. One day, walking the same road his cain hits a large object. As he is trying to navigate his path, he uses his cain to figure out how large the object is that is on his road and swings and swings. It moves a bit when he hit it, so he swings again before taking a step down his road. The blind man is able to step forward and is making way down the road as he twacks the object it give way and he is able to continue at a regular pace. At then end of the block a friend who is seeing and is able to communicate with sign language into the blind and deaf mans hand begins to speak. After the conversation is done, the blind man having no voice, gasps and puts his hand up to his mouth as to gasp. Only then does he realize he has been beating a person down his road. Before he was able to understand, everything felt and seemed successful as he dealt with this strange obstacle on ‘his’ road. LIke in this story, LGBT people are expected to take their beatings like a man/woman. The one doing the beating is oblivious to the harm being done. In the mind of the blind man, the road is his and he is successful navigating it, just has he has always been – stepping out in confidence into the world without ears to hear or eyes to see, swinging his stick confidently along the way. What the blind man later realized is this was actually a busy road. With is vicious swings people would dodge him everyday and one day a wise man simply stood in his path, was pushed down the road. Until the day that someone spoke his language explained what he had done. Some people with jump out of your way, because there is no reason for them to put of with the fruit (shit). And there are others that will stand in “your” road, because there is no reason for them to also put up with the bad fruit.
The broken and unbroken.
Some people want to transfer their brokenness unto you. In spiritual communities our message should transcend the natural world and extend of vision to the spiritual. The lie we believe is that we are broke; the spiritual truth is that we are whole. We can preach that people are broken; you’ll end up with broken people. Or you can teach that no matter what your circumstances feel like you are whole; you’ll end up with people who are told they are children of God and are on a path to believing it. Their is a scripture where God is speaking in first person and calls us “elohim” and “sons and daughters”. Elohim is God’s name and even God can see the divine within us and project what is unbroken as our identity. As people and communities of faith, we seem to rarely do that. Because that means we would have to look at a gay (LGBT all included) and take the time to see Jesus in them. The problem for most people is that is one step too close to being human by seeing the divine in them/us. That is my challenge to you all, see others as God sees you. Look long enough to see the divine; else you take good fruit and bruise it/them until they look the way you’ve always seen them…. as damaged or broken.